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The Power of No: Putting Yourself First


Saying no is an act of kindness towards yourself.

It's important to prioritize your own needs and desires over the expectations of others. Every time you say yes to something you don't want, you are essentially saying no to yourself. The fear of rejection is a common reason why people struggle to say no, but it's important to consider the nature of the relationship.


If someone rejects you for being true to yourself, it raises questions about the authenticity of the connection and whether it's worth sacrificing your voice and authenticity. Saying no is a multilayered issue that involves self-acceptance, experiences, and self-esteem.


However, the starting point is simple: do you want to say no to yourself to appease people who are conditional in their acceptance of you? Are you willing to keep lying to yourself for something you can never get from people who are unable to provide it? It's important to prioritize your own well-being and choose yourself over others.



How to say no effectively: For many people, saying no can be difficult. It can be helpful to practice different ways of saying no that feel authentic and comfortable for you. The best and the most effective way to go about it is to tell the truth. You may need to work up to this point, however, aim for the truth. Believe that you are in control of your life and there is absolutely nothing you need to explain, clarify or apologize for when it comes to accommodating yourself.


Act promptly when saying no because delaying the response won't make it any easier. This not only shows respect but also provides you with a sense of calm. It's important to express your gratitude to the person for considering you and offer congratulations if applicable. Honesty is key, so avoid lying when giving a response. If you can't be completely truthful, simply say "no" in a polite manner. Although you can express regret for not being able to attend an event or participate in a program, it's unnecessary to apologize for declining. Remember, saying no doesn't mean you've done something wrong.


Another critical point here is question how important your emotions are to you? They should be the most important thing to you because the way you feel is everything. Caring about the way you feel (good is what you are going for or happy, or clear, or content, or appreciative) determines your life. It dictates how aligned you are with your inner being (source) and this alignment is at the center of you having the best possible life you can have and survival.


You are a powerful creator. You can be, do or have anything you want and all you need to do to get there is care about how you feel. Saying NO will become a comfortable thing for you in no time when you are aware of what's important and why you are doing it.


I personally use Intention-Based Energy Process and Simple Energy Technique to help with anything that concerns my emotional health. How can Intention Tapping help? Learn more about the technique here.


Start with the broad statement: I release all of my emotional attachments to saying no. Do this while tapping continually, and then simply wait and notice what happens. Typically, the next thing that will arise is either a thought or memory about the specific concerns you have about saying no (such as I will be rejected), you could form this intention: “I release all my emotional attachments to being rejected when I say no (or this image of me being rejected)”.

Then, as before, simply wait and notice what happens next, and continue the process on the next aspect, and so on.

If you noticed that when you think about saying no you, have a tightness in your chest, form this intention: “I restore the right energy flow to my chest”. Then wait and notice what happens next. If the feeling moves to a different place then apply the same statement with the new body location as the target.

If you wish, you might work through all the different parts of this event, and any related negative events, applying the IEP statements and tapping on each of the emotionally intense moments and the emotional attachment (meaning / belief) you formed at that time. Whatever comes up for you, keep using IEP and tapping on all the different aspects that arise until you can think about saying no without the same negative reactions being triggered.




Helpful Resources:


🔗 4 Steps to Invincibility and to take control of your life: https://www.re-evolve.me/4-step-process-to-become-invincible.


🔗 Simple Guide To Creating The Life You Want: https://www.re-evolve.me/simple-guide-to-creating-the-life-you-want.






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